🌹 Illusion vs. Real Love: My Story

I’ve always known what the word illusion means. Mi mamá lo decía mucho… pero knowing the word doesn’t mean you feel what it really is. Cuando somos jóvenes, emotions come in waves—unas fuertes, otras confusas—and muchas veces, es fácil confundir una ilusión con amor.

For me, illusions were always the first stage of falling for someone. Se sentía tan real en mi cabeza, but later I’d realize it was just my imagination running wild. I could daydream a whole life with alguien before even knowing if they liked me. And honestly? I loved that. Era emocionante. My mom would tease, “Ella siempre está enamorada,” and she was right—I was always “in love,” or at least I thought I was.

Mientras otros kids escuchaban hip hop y música de party, I was blasting bachatas románticas and watching cheesy love movies. Always a hopeless romantic.

Pero todo cambió cuando empecé a tener sexo. Looking back, most of my early relationships were based on curiosity y atracción física—not real connection. Too young to understand what intimacy really meant. It was about experimenting, feeling wanted, escapando el aburrimiento.

I even remember un hombre divorciado, mayor, que quería algo más profundo conmigo. He wanted connection, not just sex. Pero yo no estaba lista. My mind was still stuck on shallow ideas of what love was supposed to look like.

And aquí viene la parte dura… no one ever told me the difference between lust and intimacy. Nadie me explicó que just because alguien toca tu cuerpo, no significa que cuida tu corazón.

👉 Aquí está lo que aprendí:

• Sex is easy to find. Real intimacy isn’t.
• Lust te da un high… love te da paz.
• Real love takes time, paciencia, y confianza.

Real intimacy? It’s when you feel safe enough to be tu messy, imperfect self—and still be seen. It’s when tu cuerpo y tu corazón están in sync.

So if you’re young and reading this: no te apresures a llamar “amor” a lo que solo es ilusión. Be patient. Aprende la diferencia entre un cuerpo que te quiere y un alma que te elige.

💭 Reflection: ¿Has confundido alguna vez pasión con amor? ¿Qué te enseñó esa experiencia?

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📖 Ovy’s Pick (Affiliate, pero real)

One book that opened my eyes is The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Me ayudó a entender why some connections feel vacío and others feel full. Simple, powerful, and honestly… un game-changer.

🔗 Grab your copy here on Amazon. Using my link helps support my work, gracias por eso 💛